• "It was only a fetus"

• "It wasn't a baby"

• "It's not a baby unless it's alive"

• "At least you already have a child"

• "How dare you act like this - it was only a fetus"

• "At least you didn't see your baby"

• "You shouldn't have counted on it going full term"

• "It was probably deformed"

• "After so many miscarriages you should be getting used to it"

• "I've had a miscarriage too - it wasn't a baby it was just a blob"

• "You didn't really want the child anyway"

• "You were only a little way along"

• "My friend had a miscarriage and she wasn't as bad as you are"

• "I don't know why you are so upset"

• "You can always try again"

• "You should be over it by now"

• "It happened so long ago - stop dwelling on it"

• "Count your blessings that you didn't have it"

• "It's not important"

• "Oh well, it's common.  It will be OK next time"

• "It wasn't meant to be"

• "You were too young/old anyway"

• "Stop over-reacting"

• "Cheer up"

• "What's your problem - stop moaning"

• "You have so many things going for you so why aren't you happy"

• "I can't know what you are going through, but I do understand"

• "Shut up"

• "I'm fed up of you constantly whining"
• "Smile!"
• "It's not the end of the world you know!"
• "You're just upset.  You'll be over it soon"
• "If you don't think about it, it will go away"
• "You're always so moody!!  Cheer up!"
• (Seeing my stomach is no longer swelling)  False alarm, eh?
• What is God trying to tell you with this?  (My answer: The God I know and love would not kill my baby to teach me a lesson.  He loves the baby as much as He loves me.)
• I knew someone who had five miscarriages, then had a baby who died after a month, and now she has THREE! (I don't want three other babies, I want THIS one.)
• I guess God just wanted that one.
• Hey, look at my baby!
• You are better off.  Kids can be such a hassle.

• "I don't believe you"

• "Why can't you just forget about it?"
• "It happened in the past.  This is the present"
• "It's your own fault - you must have done something to make it happen"

• "What's done is done - live for the future"

• "I'm so sick of you talking about this - what about me?"

• "Stop feeling sorry for yourself all the time"

Thanks to Tish for helping me out with some of the suggestions *hugs*

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