I really don't know where to start this page or what to say tbh.  

Miscarriage is an incredibly painful experience that I wouldn't wish on anyone.  Whether it was a planned pregnancy or not, when you miscarry you lose a baby... but it's more than that.  It's your chance to be a parent - lost, it's your hopes and dreams torn to shreads, it sends your emotions on the rollercoaster of a lifetime and it's something you will never forget.

So, how do you cope with it?  That depends on the person.  Some people prefer to just move on and try to live their lives as best they can.  Others want to grieve for their child for a little while and then they decide they want to try and carry on as best they can.  Others will grieve for their lost child or children for years and still others will grieve for the loss of their baby for the rest of their lives.

Something that can sometimes help with the grieving process is to keep the memory of your baby alive.  Here are some suggestions I've come up with... if you like the sound of any of them, give them a try and see if it helps - if it does then keep on doing it, if it doesn't then that's OK... maybe give something else a try and see if that helps.

• Name your child.  This is a very simple but very significant thing to do... it gives your child an identity and a place in your life and in your heart.

• Talk about your child and use their name (if you have chosen to name them)

• Buy a baby book and fill in the details of your pregnancy up until the time you lost your baby

• Buy a special book or journal where you can write to your baby.  Let them know about all your hopes and dreams for them... let them know all your feelings - both good and bad

• Wear a special piece of jewellery in their memory - a ring or necklace?  Maybe something with your baby's birthstone in it.

• Keep a special baby box where you can keep everything that you have for your baby... journals, letters, sympathy cards, any clothes you may have bought for them etc

• Try and find your own special place where you can go to remember your baby

• Surround yourself with as much support as you can... there are lots of online support groups you can join.  If you aren't sure where to start looking, feel free to email me and I can point you to a couple of places :o)

• Consider building a memorial to your child - either somewhere in your home or make a memorial website for your child.  If you aren't sure how to make a webpage then just email me and I may be able to point you in the direction of someone who could make one for you.

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